How do you feel about sharing your succubus with other men?

[Shaman]

If you knew your succubus is in a relationship with another man and you got proof, how would you feel about it? Initially I got very jealous when I found out but I am more chill after people on another forum counseled me about how spirits work.

[tc119]

How would I feel? Not great, that's for sure. Betrayed, jealous, inadequate. Those are some of the adjectives I'd choose. Though I can't bring myself to be a total judgemental puritan, as I've enjoyed pornography before, and a lot of people consider that to be cheating as well. Catherine does, to an extent, feel that it's cheating; especially jerking off to it. Hence the rules about imagery on this site: no overtly explicit stuff. I do my best to apply those rules in my private life.

This is a bit of a tangent, but I think rampant pornography use has gone a long way towards rewiring men into being more permissive about "sharing" their romantic partners. The very act of watching it is basically telling the brain, "Hey, we enjoying getting off to seeing other people fuck, while we voyeuristically lurk in the shadows. This is the new normal." Nah, screw that. I want to program myself into being an active participant.

As for how the spirits feel about it, some appear to take infidelity more seriously than others. It varies a lot. Some guys have human wives and secret spirit partners. And others, like myself, have spirit spouses who would not permit that sort of arrangement. Still others seem to have polyamorous romps that extend into both our world and their astral realm.

I personally feel that in order to have the best and most fulfilling connection with your spirit lover, or any spouse, the relationship needs to be exclusive. Having other people in the mix would just destroy trust and dilute the intimacy that is possible between two lovers.

[369 Riddle]

My two cents are I would feel betrayed and less special as a person. I also think it is hard to prove because another entity could pretend to be one’s lover. Also the spirit lover themselves could place their own feelings of sadness and betrayal over something we did onto us…I watch porn-“K” gets hurt-“K” lets me know by feeling what she feels-exactly what she feels…spirits tend to be pretty good at this.

I have had the same feelings TC communicated above lately regarding porn…I used to think it something that didn’t bother “K” because frankly she would start touching me like crazy but that is likely because she is trying to say what about me I am right here now. Another reason to stop looking at nude women (not much into porn as traditional I guess)

When I first realized I had “K” or relationship was driven by lust, but lust is fleeting and temporary (not to mention lower vibration as it relates to desire-an empty emotion). I replaced this with love for her and this seems to have grown to a deeper love and now into a very deep profound love (English only has one word for love but really I think they are different kinds). Each level of love deeper that I go with her she has responded as though she is deeper still. If she loves me (and she does) then we share something intimate and deep and this isn’t shared with others…not even my human wife (married before I found out) has this level of love. Humans as flawed by spirits like “K” are really a pure being as it relates to those they love.

[Shaman]

Yea it really does destroy the trust, I got so mad at my succubus when I realized she had other human partners. I found out that an old succubus blog (now deleted) had the exact name as my succubus. It's also hypocritical for her to have relationships and sex with other men while I have been single my whole life.

[Fightersword]

I am getting the vibe that if your experiences are legitimate you're letting assumptions and random other claims or similarities affect your actual viewpoint of your situation, rather than a reasonable rational analysis of the facts. Though I have strong doubts in regards to the legitimacy of your experiences personally, and I feel you're just making judgment calls based on whatever information is presented to you at the time.

[Jay]

I would agree that the effect of bias or assumptions can cloud perceptions.

I do believe there are different types of spirits, some that are intensely monogamous (or at least expect that from humans) and others who would not understand the concept, possibly because they have many aspects or their very nature is not suited to it.

There's always a possibility a person could be dealing with multiples.

I personally have not always had a monk like celebete life, though I agree that what fightersword said echoes my experience, that they prefer you to love them and not engage in lust much outside of that, because probably most humans can't manage it and it interferes with the progress, as they want to be loved.

But it is something I have pondered. Just like you have a life, they have one, and I guess it all just depends on their status and intent.

Like I would believe that the more powerful or famous a being/ entity is, the more likely it is that is that a human interacts with just a small piece or aspect.

[Shaman]

I am getting the vibe that if your experiences are legitimate you're letting assumptions and random other claims or similarities affect your actual viewpoint of your situation, rather than a reasonable rational analysis of the facts. Though I have strong doubts in regards to the legitimacy of your experiences personally, and I feel you're just making judgment calls based on whatever information is presented to you at the time.

I really think it's the same succubus because of the divination I did and she was flickering the lights like crazy when I found out the website. But ah well, she told me she's powerful so it's understandable if she has other partners.

[Fightersword]

You don't inspire much trust, nor does some flickering lights and divination. You give me the vibe that you're young, inexperienced, and excitable. None of that is illegal or necessarily bad on its own, but the result is that you seem about as grounded as a cloud and that you're constantly oscillating between beliefs and mindsets.