Possibly a succubus?

[Merritt]

Yes, the back pain was gone when I got up. So perhaps that could in fact be a factor. I wouldn’t say that I’m compelled to keep it from her, more so along the lines of wanting to keep my wife from potentially causing problems. And yes, the more that I’ve read about spirits and succubi, the more concerning it is to me that my wife is so excited and interested by this whole idea because I definitely don’t want anything bad to happen to either of us. There was no visit last night, but I had a hell of a wild dream. It was kind of like a flashback to one of the times that her and I had picked up a girl in a bar while we were vacationing in Myrtle Beach years ago, it was strange because I knew that my wife was there, but I couldn’t see her face or hear her or anything, and the girl that we had picked up was going by the name Vespa, Which was definitely not her name. It was really weird, the room looked the same and everything. I’m beginning to think that Name has more to it than just something that has been floating around my head for a couple of decades.

[Fightersword]

Compulsion is a weird way to put it. They won’t force you directly to do things. Well, usually. But it is interesting that you’ve very quickly developed an interest in keeping the experience at some level of arm’s length from your wife, regardless of the reason, especially given the fact that you’ve seemingly had a fairly consistently good relationship with your wife from what I’ve seen you post. Spirit could definitely be jealous or just making its move to have your attention above your wife, or you could simply be fascinated with the experience to the point of wanting it to yourself.

Either way this mindset will inevitably eventually cause problems with the wife if she’s at all observant. What you do about that is up to you ultimately. Could adjust the mindset or let the problems come and deal with them, or do your best to hide future things. Your call. I’ve given up on the idea of trying to find a balance with a physical relationship and with a spirit lover personally, having come down on the side of 100% spirit lover, so that area isn’t my forte.

[Merritt]

Well, to be honest, she’s way more impulsive than I am. I usually take a moment to sit down and think about something, she doesn’t. I’m not exactly sure what I’m going to do, I guess I’m just gonna play it by ear and try to go with my intuition. my wife did expressed to me that she thinks it’s hot that I could possibly have a spirit lover. She doesn’t seem jealous or output by it at all, and from what I gather, she’s not trying to join, she just wants to watch. Not sure how a spirit lover would feel about that. I think it may be worth having a conversation with her about the nature of things like this considering the things I’ve learned in the last several days.

[Rafe]

From your dream it seems the succubus has set her eyes on both of you as the prize. Girl's gotta eat.

[Fightersword]

I honestly disagree. The way that the female partner was basically phased out of existence within the dream implies that her focus is on him, imo. I also think his behavior and feelings reflects that focus too. It’s not a surprise that he’s being drawn more and more strongly towards the spirit lover, and while the wife is a part of it right now, I don’t get the feeling the spirit wants to share him more than necessary. Spirit lovers will typically adapt to your specific circumstances, so if you are married or in a relationship they won’t push you to dissolve that if it’s not feasible. They will, however, take the attention, sexual or otherwise, that they can get away with, generally speaking.

I feel like you see the pattern of some sort of monopolization happen with almost every spirit lover. Sometimes even to the detriment of life, and I think almost all spirit lovers are tempted to monopolize you to that extent but the more intelligent ones hold themselves back for your health and life or for their own strategy, etc. I think that’s due to their nature ultimately, being beings with the luxury of spending as much time with us as we, and they, want. They always want forever with you, some of them are just more patient, calculating, or simply generous about it.

[DerWeißeZauberer]

Hello, i'm new here in this forum. I would like to share my story with you and ask you questions that you might be able to answer for me.

About 4 years ago I became aware of the topic of "Succubus/Succubi" through videos on YouTube, documentation or music. The theme, or rather the term succubus, can often be found in the lyrics of some songs, especially in the black metal area. From that point on I was fascinated by this topic and started to look into it. It went so far that three years ago I decided to get in touch with a succubus, and ideally even have one at my side. About 2 years ago I had my first “contact” through touches on my feet and I often had the feeling that someone was sitting at the other end of my bed or right next to me. The strange thing is, I didn't do any rituals or anything like that. Maybe it was pure will and strong desire? It's been 2 years now and little has changed since then. I often have dreams about women who I seem to love, but whom I have never seen. Sometimes I can't really remember dreams like that anymore. Physical contact only occurs in the sense that I feel touch on my body. I lie on my back and feel fingertips or whole hands caressing my stomach and chest. There was one exception: two times I felt a kind of "energy" between my legs, it was unbelievable but unfortunately it went away quickly. I also sometimes notice noises, but it's not a whisper but more of a clicking or cracking sound in my ear. However, the dreams, the clicking in my ears and the touches on my body are the only signs of a succubus. Is it true or am I imagining it? It is very difficult for me to make contact because nothing works, whether with a pendulum or meditation. It's difficult for me to fall into a trance in order to meditate properly and I haven't yet managed to have lucid dreams.

I would be happy if someone in this forum has an answer to these questions, and perhaps can give me a few tips on meditation and contact with my succubus, as I have a great desire to finally get to know her better.

PS: Sorry for my bad english.

[tc119]

Welcome to the forum, White Wizard. (I hope you don't mind me calling you that in English.) The phenomena and effects that you describe are consistent with what many others have reported.

Is it true or am I imagining it?

I believe it's real, but it's ultimately up to you whether or not you want to accept this new experience as part of your worldview. Decide that first before plunging any deeper. Becoming proficient at lucid dreaming or reaching trance states is simply a matter of consistent practice. For lucid dreaming, I'd recommend The Phase, a free ebook, that has a great starter guide. For trance states, The Monroe Institute's Hemisync Gateway program might be of some help. Regular meditation can accomplish the same thing, though a lot of people report success using binaural beats. This should be enough to keep you busy and potential establish better contact with whoever is interacting with you. That's where I'd start.